Confidence vs Arrogance

06:43 Eugene Madondo 0 Comments


In order to succeed one has to have confidence, now this is often confused with being arrogant. So right from the start I am going to give you a clear definition of what they both mean. Firstly I will define confidence for you, the dictionary meaning of confidence is: “belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance: His lack of confidence defeated him."  Arrogance on the other hand is unlike confidence, it is a negative quality defined by the dictionary as: “Offensive display of superiority or self-importance; overbearing pride.”
we could all learn a thing or two from Arnold

 Now you see that these two words have different meanings and sometimes confidence can be perceived as being arrogant by others because as Friedrich Nietzsche put it “the arrogance that accompanies merit offends us even more than the arrogance of people who are lacking merit: since merit itself offends us.” Many a time if a person is very successful and they have achieved what others have not, others manifest their jealousy as judgement of the achiever. What was before confident behaviour becomes arrogant behaviour because you make under achieving people feel bad about themselves. Instead solving their problem buy doing something with their lives so that they too can achieve people deflects their insecurities onto the confident person.

Of course that is not always the case, some people really are arrogant, for example boxers if they are the champion and they are undefeated. This kind of arrogance is often the reason they stay on top, because this belief that they are better than everyone else is what keeps them going, what keeps them training so that they stay the best at what they do. A great example of this was Muhammad Ali, he believed he was the greatest before he was even champ and when he was champ he continued to tell people he was the greatest because as he put it, “I figured if I said it enough, I would convince the world that I really was the greatest.”  He was a man of many words, and wise words at that, there was method in his madness. He is the guy famous for saying “it’s not bragging if you can back it up.”

There are benefits to both confidence and arrogance, both will make some people dislike you but arrogance will make many more people dislike you, but if you are good at what you do I am sure there will be plenty of people who love either way. You have to think of your end goal, the point is to believe in yourself, to back yourself up no matter what. The point is to make goals and convince yourself that you can achieve them even if you originally had doubts and you will find that you achieve your goals and go beyond that. The point is not just to talk the talk; the point is for you antics and your appearance to match your work ethic (actually walking the walk). You cannot be confident/arrogant a lazy, you are confident because you know you work hard and can “back it up.”

Muhammad Ali is not the only person who had unrelenting belief in himself, it is a common trait among the successful no matter which field they are in. Look at what Arnold Schwarzenegger achieved in his bodybuilding, Hollywood and political career. It’s an obvious belief which shows in the words he often says when referring to his success, “I knew I was a winner back in the late sixties. I knew I was destined for great things. People will say that kind of thinking is totally immodest. I agree. Modesty is not a word that applies to me in any way – I hope it never will.”

If you don’t believe in yourself that is the first thing you need to fix so that you can progress and stop looking down at yourself. If you don’t believe in you, don’t expect others to believe in you.

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